What? – she is only 3 years old, she doesn’t even understand what it means.
As a mother, my duty is to protect my child from the dangers of the world or at least try and I thought I have prepared Jisele from age 2 already, not be pushed around. I even did a short video so she can watch it often and always remember what to do:
Well… Until something happened, Joao and I are sitting having coffee and Jisele is playing with other kids. Next I heard was her screaming at the top of her lungs, I rushed to find a little boy that is maybe smaller than her on top of her punching her violently [ like the type you see in the movies] I then rushed to get him away from her and I asked what had happened and ordered him to apologize, but his kid was a little monster. He did not want to apologize. So I went to the speak to the mother.
Me: Excuse me your son is violently punching my child and he refuses to apologize.
Boy’s mom: oh! this is such a problem, he is always punching other kids. The teachers at the school are complaining.
Me: I am sorry your child is giving you problems but that is not my child problem, he can’t go around punching other kids.
Boys mom: I don’t know what to do.
By this time my face looks like?… really??? So many things crossed my mind of what I should or should not say to her. I am mad but also sad for this little boy, who is clearly trying to communicate his frustration to his parents – I wonder if they are listening…
At that time it hit me that this is just the beginning, and I was not prepared as I thought I was. Joao and I are now sitting in a place where we need to teach her to defend herself physically [ as a parent, I really wish I didn’t].
– if you get pushed – tell the kid you don’t like it, they must STOP
– if you get punched – use your knuckles to punch back
– if you get kicked – kick back
– run to an adult
With lots and lots of emphases that she ONLY uses these tools as DEFENCE.
As I said before, I really wish I didn’t. But I know Joao and I cannot always be there to defend her and there is always a frustrated kid somewhere waiting to take their frustration on someone.
I always say “I was never bullied” but I did have an abusive first boyfriend, this is a form of bully. I promised myself that no man will ever put their hands on me but I didn’t think of the day when I have to worry about my child at age 3, this really makes me mad, like mad to a level of crazy.
I would like to hear from moms and dads what is the craziest thing you have had to do to protect your child?.